Guide to female orgasm as a couple

Achieving the female orgasm as a couple can be complicated, but following the right advice can be achieved.

Reaching the female orgasm as a couple is a job of two.

The human sexual response follows an ascending process that begins with desire, continues with arousal and culminates in orgasm. The way we get aroused each can be different and even varies depending on the moment..

All we are going to tell you are Easy and simple tips, suitable for all experience levels. They say that you should not be afraid of failing, but not trying, so let’s go!

THE KEYS TO ACHIEVING THE FEMALE ORGASM AS A COUPLE

You may have never had an orgasm, you may have stopped having it, or you may only achieve it in specific situations. In fact, there are many people who only achieve it through masturbation or direct stimulation on the clitoris.

1. RELAX YOUR MIND

We all want to enjoy our sexuality and, let’s not fool ourselves, we would like to reach orgasm more and better, also as a couple.

Remember that they say that it is enough to want something to not get it?

You guessed it, this is something that can also happen with the long-awaited orgasm. Yes, we already know that you want to reach it or get it more times than you do, that’s why you are reading this article. First of all, tranquility.

The first thing you should do is just that, relax your mind, not think so much about it and internalize that you really do not need it to fully enjoy sex.

Sexual pleasure begins in the mind. It is enough that you want to reach orgasm so that it does not arrive.

You should know that to achieve the female orgasm there must be 3 things:

• Mind-body connection
• Connection with the couple
• Starting from the maximum possible mental relaxation

For your peace of mind, In 95% of cases of anorgasmia (absence of orgasm) the cause is emotional and / or psychological. The remaining 5% is caused by an organic cause. So, first of all, tranquility and relaxation.

Idealizing orgasm, feeling it and seeking it as an end in itself can be one of the reasons that lead you not to reach it.

2. GET TO KNOW YOURSELF

Many factors such as stress or anxiety can influence libido and female orgasm. It is normal to feel frustration and guilt, tIt is also normal to demand too much of yourself..

It is possible that, in addition, you feel pressured by your partner and, therefore, your sexual self-esteem is affected causing insecurities and fears.

Knowing perfectly what and how you like it will help you enjoy sex 100% and reach orgasm more easily.

It is very important that you know yourself well and that you know how and what you like. Of course, it is equally important to communicate it to your partner and even guide him for better stimulation.

Lack of self-knowledge and communication can be a destroyer of chemistry, preventing you from enjoying sex 100%.

3. COMMUNICATION

When you have difficulty reaching orgasm in relationships and it is easier when you stimulate yourself alone, there is something important to pay attention to: Communication between you.

It may be that alone you concentrate more on your pleasure and that as a couple it is difficult for you to arrive, It may be that you know perfectly well what you like but that it is difficult for you to communicate it, it may be that your partner has difficulty carrying it out, or it is also possible that they are occasional / sporadic partners with whom it is more difficult for you to have confidence …

There are many factors that can influence the arrival at orgasm. Precisely for this reason, the most important thing is communication, seeing what may be what is hindering that experience and looking together for a way to make it equally pleasant for both.

Communication is one of the key factors that influences the arrival of orgasm in couple experiences.

4. CONTEXT MATTERS A LOT

Usually in people with vulva arousal and also The process of reaching orgasm is something more emotional and you have to keep it in mind. Sometimes it is not enough with some previous erotic games well done with kisses, caresses, and others. And it is necessary to create an enabling context and environment.

The right context can make the difference between a disastrous experience and one with fireworks.

How to create the ideal environment for orgasm?

Although it may seem obvious, it can work well to put sensual or relaxed music, dim light, some candles, and even have a suggestive previous conversation, or more risqué, before starting.

Although everything depends on the preferences of each one and is something very subjective, we can give you some original ideas to create a more favorable environment that usually work very well.

• USE OF EROTIC CANDLESDo you know the secrets of erotic candles? In addition to creating the right environment, they will perfume the room and, what many people do not know, is that They can be used for massages! Surely when you try them they will be an almost essential element in your sexual encounters.
  
• USE OF EROTIC LINGERIEErotic and sensual lingerie is sexy, sensual and provocative underwear, designed to evoke desire.The most common benefits of using sexy lingerie are many: It helps you feel better, more daring, sensual, more empowered… Your attitude changes and you feel better contigx same.
  

  The use of lingerie brings that extra point of sexual attraction, and that is always a plus to reach orgasm.

  

5. BLESSED EROTIC GAMES

When they say that erotic games work, it’s for a reason. Games are all those stimulations that take place in a sexual relationship, and allow the other person to become aroused and lubricated well. It’s time to let your imagination run wild!

It seems that it is a generalization when we say that most cis women need erotic games in conditions, but the truth is that it is so according to surveys. Many people go too fast And they forget that by touching the ears, neck, nipples or clitoris, it will become aroused.

Erotic games are much mores that kisses and caresses. It’s time to let your imagination run wild and try new things.

In addition to kissing on the mouth, neck, back or crotch and stimulation of the genital areas, there are many other things you can do. Starting by playing games in a place other than bed.

How to make erotic games that really raise the temperature?

As in everything, it depends on the preferences of each one. What some people may like doesn’t have to work for others. It is said that each person has their own code of pleasure and deciphering it is a wonderful and very exciting joint work.. Here are some ideas to make some different erotic games.

• PLAY AGAINWith the use of erotic games, excitement and libido is increasing almost without realizing it And you can make the experience more fun as well as more enjoyable.
  
• EROTIC MASSAGES Do you want the excitement to rise like foam? Lubricants, massage oils or edibles for a sensual massage for all its erogenous zones will be your great allies.
  
• EROTIC ACCESSORIESAnother way to raise arousal is to include toys and accessories during erotic games. Try blindfolding and using stimulating creams on your lips or genitals. If your partner does not see you, he will be even more excited because other senses such as taste and touch will be enhanced.
  

  Another alternative is Use a vibrating ring or for your guy to use to caress your genital area. You can also use a clitoral stimulating cream to increase sexual appetite and achieve more intense orgasms.

  

  The use of toys as a couple helps to move from good to extraordinary experiences.

6. CLYTORIAN STIMULATION OF 10

There are many people who They ONLY reach orgasm through masturbation or direct clitoral stimulation And therefore they need that stimulation to be able to achieve it during intercourse.

Whether you are in this group or not, clitoral stimulation will help you not only enjoy more, but also discover new levels of arousal and multiply the chances of reaching one, or perhaps several orgasms.

Do not forget the clitoris as one of the keys to reaching orgasm as a couple.

You can not talk about vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm, since it only differs in the way the clitoris is stimulated. Keep this in mind during prolegomena and foreplay and do not forget him during penetration.

7. THE INSEPARABLE DUO: PENETRATION AND LUBRICATION

You may or may not be one of the people who reach orgasm during penetration. It is not a matter of belonging to one group or another of people, but of finding the position that favors you to reach it.

Lubrication is essential for good penetration, not only so that neither of you feel pain but so that intercourse occurs smoothly.

Factors such as stress, insecurity or other physiological disorders sometimes prevent the genitals from lubricating naturally despite sexual desire.

On the other hand, keep in mind that Female arousal can subside in a matter of seconds. One cause may be an attempt to penetrate an insufficiently lubricated vagina. Do not hesitate to use lubricants, they also give a lot of play if they are flavored or retardant.

8. THE WORLD OF SMELLS

Sometimes we focus on the sense of touch and forget about smell which also greatly influences our experiences. Pheromones and body odor affect the state of excitement in an unconscious way. The reality is that smell is a stimulant of eroticism that awakens sexual pleasure.

Smell is essential to enjoy a pleasant sexual relationship. Enter the world of smells and experience new sensations.

How to use smells in our favor?

The symptoms of a strong attraction are an accelerated sum of chemical reactions in the brain that begin with the perception of the body odor of the person who catches us.

Beyond the use of incense and scented candles, one way to innovate in this of smells and suggest our mind is to introduce the use of pheromone concentrates or perfumers of sheets with aphrodisiacs.

9. WAYS TO REACH ORGASM

Perhaps you have gone directly to this part of the article because it is what interests you most. If you have done so, we recommend you read all of the above because, although the technique is important, everything we have told you in the previous sections helps to have more and better orgasms.

73.2% of people with vulva need direct stimulation of the clitoris to reach orgasm.

Next, we provide you with 3 simpler ways with which you can maximize the chances of achieving it.

The first thing you need to know is that to reach orgasm you must put aside possible complexes, worries, fears and modesty. We all have them to a lesser or greater extent but we must not forget that in order to climax it is essential to feel comfortable and enjoy the moment.

• TRICK 1: LEAVE WITH HONEY ON YOUR LIPSDo you know that about leaving someone with honey on their lips? Although it sounds malicious or inconsiderate, it is something that can help you climax as a couple. And it’s not a textual thing of using real honey or anything like that.Something that usually works very well is that your partner begins to caress you slowly and subtly those more sensitive parts, for each one they will be different. The idea is to play to caress them gradually and increase the intensity, introducing in the game more erogenous zones until reaching the vulva and clitoris.
  

  Here’s the catch! When you see that you can no longer and you are about to reach orgasm, you should decrease the intensity or start stroking another part of your body.. In this way, the desire to caress you again right where he was doing it rises, the tension and excitement accumulates and the desire for more pleasure increases to the point of ending up saying that CONTINUE! to inevitably end up exploding with pleasure.

  A trick to reach orgasm is to stay with honey on your lips, to later reach it.

• TRICK 2: COMPLETE STIMULATIONIt’s about 3-band stimulation, what do we mean? To complete stimulation. I mean vaginal stimulation (with fingers, penis, or toys), clitoral stimulation (with fingers, tongue, or toys), and G-spot stimulation (with fingers and/or toys). And not necessarily the 3 points at once.Again, it depends on each person, but the ideal to achieve orgasm as a couple is to stimulate these 3 points in each sexual encounter, in the way, rhythm and order that is most desired.
  

  Always remember that you have three key areas to stimulate, if you want to reach orgasm as a couple.

  

  To combine the stimulation of the 3 zones, you can start by introducing the index and middle fingers bent upwards into the vagina, locate the G-spot, and start making circular movements or up and down the vaginal wall.

  If you also want to put the icing on the cake try to stimulate the clitoris at the same time with your thumb. Interspersing soft and slow rhythms with stronger and faster rhythms is usually a definitive cocktail to achieve one of the longest and most pleasurable orgasms.

• TRICK 3: PENETRATION WITH CLITORAL STIMULATIONThere are not a few people with vulva who still feel frustrated when the climax does not come with penetration. Many people love to feel their partner inside and, although they want to climax with penetration, in most cases it is not enough to achieve orgasm.
  

  Usually all orRgasmus needs more or less direct clitoral stimulation, and during penetration as well.

  Whatever posture you are trying, The important thing is that you detect with which movements or positions you feel more pleasure and stimulate the clitoris more directly.. Here, communication with your partner is again indispensable.

  

  Every couple must find their own Magic combination of posture and movement

FIRST OF ALL, PEACE OF MIND, EVERYTHING IS A MATTER OF WORKING

We have already reached the end of the guide. You have seen everything you need to take into account to achieve orgasm with your partner or experience it more times. Even so We can’t give you a magic formula, because it doesn’t exist.. If each person is a world, imagine the combinations that can exist if we add another person or people to the equation.

In short, it is important that you stay with the Five ingredients necessary to be able to have an orgasm with your partner, whether stable or not.

• Self.
• A couple with desire and willingness to learn and improve.
• High doses of excitement on the part of both.
• Mindfulness in the moment.
• A lot of couple communication.

You can’t wait for your partner to guess your pleasure formula, which is why self-knowledge and communication are so important.

Most people who reach orgasm easily as a couple, are surely not aware of these basic ingredients or everything we have been discussing. When you have some difficulty, it is important to focus on the details to take these things into account to gradually get it more easily. Each person is a world and what works for one may not work for another.. It is about finding your own formula, and with all the little help that exists today we are sure that you will find it.

Achieving orgasm as a couple is possible and, as you have seen, everything starts in the mind and influences many and diverse factors. Our recommendation is that you focus on enjoying each other. And of the moment, that you communicate and let yourself go because at the end of the day sexual pleasure is much more than the moment of orgasm.

Let’s stop seeing sex as a race in which we only think about reaching the finish line and start seeing it as a journey, in which we can enjoy the views, the company, and the whole experience.